What's the Equality Wheel? 

The development of the notable Power and Control Wheel allowed individuals to have a visual representation of different tactics of abuse victims can experience. Individuals that resonated with the power and control wheel struggled to enter a new relationship after experiencing an abusive relationship because they did not know what to look for. The Equality Wheel was created to show characteristics that are necessary for a healthy relationship. The implementation of the equality wheel will help improve individual's expectations and allow them to grow in their future relationships.  By effectively utilizing the equality wheel it can help end the cycle of abuse.  

Like the Power and Control Wheel it includes qualities both on the outside and inside of the wheel.  On the outside of the wheel, it says nonviolence emphasizing that violence is not and should be tolerated in a relationship. The inside of the wheel includes 8 traits that your partner should possess. The traits in the wheel are: 

1. Economic partnership  
2. Negotiation and fairness 
3. Non-threatening behavior 
4. Respect 
5. Trust and support 
6. Honesty and accountability 
7. Responsible parenting 
8. Shared responsibility 

Let's break it down further: 

1. Economic Partnership 

Economic Partnership can be shown by making decisions about money together. It is important that these decisions are made in agreement and that both individual's benefit. 

2. Negotiation and Fairness 

When facing disagreements in a relationship, couples should be able to find a compromise or a solution that is beneficial for both individuals and made in accordance. Every couple will have arguments but it's important that within those arguments try and find the ability to accept that some things are going to change. 

3. Non-threatening behavior 

Individuals with non-threatening behavior make their partner feel safe and comfortable when they are communicating with one another. Partners should be able to express what their feelings are without being scared or intimidated.  

4. Respect 

Respect is shown by listening to your partner and validating their feelings. By being attentive it shows your partner that you care about their feelings and hold them to high regard.  

5. Trust and Support  

Support between partners is exhibited when both partners encourage one another to pursue their dreams. Trust is displayed when both partners recognize each other's entitlement to life outside of one another such as separate friends, activities, and opinions.  

6. Honesty and Accountability 

Without honesty and accountability, the other qualities included in the circle would not happen. By taking responsibility for your actions and admitting when you are wrong, it shows maturity and growth. Sharing honest discussions with one another can reveal one's authenticity and creates a strong foundation for a relationship.  

7. Responsible parenting 

When children are involved, it is especially important to treat one another with kindness and respect as children tend to mimic their parent's behaviors. By acting as a good role model for their kids it shows that they can work together as a team and commit to obligations. 

8. Shared responsibilities 

This is when both partners reciprocally decide on an equal distribution of work.  Partners should make choices together regarding their home and families (if applicable).  

Safe Alliance recognizes that individuals who have experienced abuse struggle with transitioning into a positive relationship.  Many individuals succumb to not getting into relationships out of fear or getting in a relationship with another abuser. It's important to know what to look for and to recognize that what you are asking for is the bare minimum. The Equality Wheel can help survivors distinguish what was missing from their relationship.  This visual was created to instill hope in survivors and that connects to our mission statement.  

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic or sexual violence, please call the 24/7 Greater Charlotte Hope Line at 980.771.4673. This free, confidential resource can connect you with Safe Alliance programs and other community resources.